I want to preface this by saying how happy I am to have our little girl here with us. I was thrilled when I found out I was pregnant, I have always wanted to be a mom. You read all sorts of things on the Internet and in books about what to expect when you are pregnant, but I feel like there are some things that have been left out. To make sure others know what to expect, I came up with this list during my pregnancy so I wouldn’t forget! So here are 10 things I wish I had known before I was pregnant.
1. Everyone is going to have an opinion about your pregnancy and will compare yours to theirs, or other people they know.
I don’t know what this is a thing. Everything I have read says that every pregnancy is different, even the same person can have different pregnancies. I don’t understand why we are constantly comparing pregnancy symptoms to see who had it worse or whether pregnancy brain is a thing or not (it is, there is research). Can’t we all just be supportive of each other, especially when it’s new and scary?
2. You may not feel all happy and glowy but you might not be really sick either.
Most people talk about how sick they were or how amazing they felt while they were pregnant. I really didn’t feel like I fell into either group. I had good days and bad days but I was never really sick and I never felt better pregnant than I do when I am not pregnant.
3. The hormone changes happen when they happen, there is not a schedule and everyone is different.
I know of a lot of women who talked about crying all of the time, especially during the second trimester. I didn’t really experience a lot of that but every now and then I would cry for no reason at all and usually I couldn’t even pin point a trigger.
4. People are going to tell you that you don’t look very pregnant (DONT DO THIS)
This happened more times than I think it should have. I know that most people mean it has a compliment but I think it falls under the same category as asking people when they are going to start having kids. Keep those comments to yourself. You don’t have to sleep with this baby bump! You don’t have to dress it every morning, sometimes ending up in tears because everything that fit last week does not fit this week.
5. Your body is going to do weird things it has never done before, like sweat.
This didn’t start until my second trimester but I noticed that I was sweating in places I have never sweated before…
6. You will have to get used to a small human moving around in side of you while you are trying to fall asleep.
Sometimes this is the most exciting thing in the world, other times it is as annoying as Hell, especially when you haven’t been sleeping very well. Because of the positioning of the placenta, I have been feeling this baby move since 16 weeks. And I can feel EVERYTHING. So sometimes at 11 pm when I am trying really hard to fall asleep and she is moving like crazy, I wasn’t too happy…
7. Being sick is 10 times worse when you are pregnant.
I caught a NASTY cold at the end of my second trimester. I am usually pretty good about kicking colds, I can take some DayQuil and be over it in just a few days. This cold lasted two weeks and even though I still took a lot of DayQuil, I don’t think it helped much. Add a cough and I was up a lot in the night trying not to pee and cough at the same time!
8. Being pregnant is painful, and not just the ways people tell you.
Again this is all about expectations. I knew my back and hips would hurt, they do anyway. I did not know that when Baby Girl decided to change positions it would hurt. Or when she would kick just the right way, I would understand a whole new meaning of pain.
9.Your immune system is pretty much non existent when you are pregnant.
I usually get really sick about once a year, if that. But since I became pregnant, I was sick about 4 different times. When I say sick, I mean, can’t get out of bed/non functioning kind of sick. I got a bad cold and ear infection very early in the pregnancy. I can’t remember the last time I had an ear infection. I caught a cold in January that was so bad that we thought my cough had turned into pneumonia, luckily it didn’t. The week before I delivered, I caught Flu B and couldn’t get out of bed for three days. It is very common for this to happen it turns out as your body is focusing so much of its energy on developing a healthy baby.
10.You will have anxiety and there isn’t much you can do about it.
The last month of my pregnancy, my anxiety would keep me up at night. None of it was rational, anxiety usually isn’t. But I would spend hours in the middle of the night wondering if we would have everything ready in time or if I would meet a work deadline that really only existed in my head. I was usually able to kick the anxiety by doing something to keep busy. But it wasn’t something I was expecting and was definitely not something I could control.
I am writing this as I lay in the hospital with Jackie laying in the bassinet next to me. She has been so calm the last two days, soaking up everything around her. I have been thinking a lot about becoming a mom.
Waiting for her arrival, I spent a lot of time thinking about what kind of mom I wanted to be. All of that went out the window the moment the doctor put her on my chest. All of the ideas I had, they don’t matter. She is all that matters now. Raising her to be the best person she can be. Being the example to her that Paris has been and continues to be for me. I want her to be kind, patient, understanding of others and loving. The best thing I can do for her is to show her how to be that kind of person.
Everything I do now will be seen by her. How I speak to others, how I treat others, how I live my life. I want her to always know she is loved. The last few days have shown me how much she is already loved from all of the messages, comments, texts and family support. I know she will never question that she is loved by her family and friends.
One of the things I have loved the most about the last few days is watching The Husband become a dad. He was with me for the entire labor and delivery and stood over Jackie as they cleaned her up and did the initial tests on her. Every moment he has had to be near her, he has taken. I didn’t know I could fall more in love with my husband but watching him become a dad has made me see him in a new light.
I know this is kind of a rambling post but I wanted to share these thoughts while they were fresh. Next week I will be sharing Jackie’s birth story! Thanks for reading and for your support during this huge transition.
Here are all of my Favorite Third Trimester Clothes. I think dressing the bump in the third trimester was the most challenging. I finally really had a baby bump this trimester, but a lot of the pants I bought early on stopped fitting around 32-33 weeks. So I really had to improvise on what I wore!
Good shoes were so important during my entire pregnancy. I loved the ones I ended up buying, especially the blush Sam Edleman pair. I feel like I did sacrifice wearing my cute winter boots and booties because of this pregnancy,but when my feet started to swell at 36 weeks, I was so glad I had the shoes I did!
Luckily, I was able to wear the majority of the tops I had bought earlier in this pregnancy. The weather here was really weird this winter so I would wear a sweater one day and a t-shirt the next. A lot of these tops are from H&M, and they were great.
As I mentioned, pants got complicated around 32 weeks. Luckily I had found these cute joggers from H&M that come in both pink and black. I pretty much lived in those. I did have one pair of jeans that still fit and some leggings so I was able to make it work.
Dresses were the easiest thing for me to wear this trimester. They were the comfiest and I luckily have a few that are stretchy! The pink maxi dress is the one I think I wore the most and I got tons of compliments on it!
I want to share my Third Trimester Update with you. Things have remained very uneventful but I am so ready for her to get here!
How Far Along:39 weeks. I am seriously counting down the minutes until her due date at this point.
Food Cravings:I think I have been craving chocolate milkshakes and french fries the most this trimester. Anything with chocolate in it has sounded great, which is funny because I couldn’t stand anything sweet until about half way through my 2nd trimester!
Baby Gender: Still a little girl!
Baby Name: We have been sharing the baby name with family and friends but I am keeping her name off the Internet until she gets here.
Baby Movement: She has always been a mover. feel like I have gone through phases when it comes to how I feel about her movement. At the beginning of this trimester, I stopped sleeping and her movement was just another thing keeping me awake. As we get closer to her due date, I love spending time just sitting and feeling her move around.
Sleep: Sadly my streak of sleeping really well came to an end as the third trimester starter. I haven’t been able to sleep more than 3-4 hours at a time and it usually takes a long time to fall asleep. I also ended up getting a really bad cold around 28 weeks that lasted 10 days. I had a bad cough, so bad we thought I might have pneumonia. Luckily I didn’t but it made sleeping even more difficult. I wake up most mornings around 4:30 am and usually don’t go back to sleep until about 7:30.
Maternity Clothes:Most of the tops I bought, I have still be able to wear. However, once I hit about 32 weeks, I was really limited when it came to bottoms! I didn’t buy any more maternity clothes this trimester though, I tried to work with what I already had. I will be posting more about my favorite 3rd trimester clothes on Wednesday.
Weight Gain:I have gained 30 pounds. I am really happy with my weight gain but I am excited to start working out again and get back to my pre-pregnancy weight.
What I’ve Purchased:I feel like I bought a lot of odds and ends this trimester. We did buy a few books, mostly Spanish books. We were also given a very large gift card to Amazon as a gift so I bought the 4moms mamaroo. I can’t wait to see what baby girl thinks about this. From what I have read, babies either love it or hate it. Hopefully baby girl will love it. I also discovered Amazon Fresh this trimester. I LOVE it! I will be doing an entire post about it in the next month or so, so keep an eye out for that!
These are just a few of the things I put on the baby registry. I did a lot of research on each item, including reviews. Most of these were added after someone recommended the item to me or I read about it in detail.
Honestly, I did my research on baby carriers and this one was highly rated and a top pick on Amazon.
These were recommended by Elise over at Hunters of Happiness. She used them with her little girl and they are apparently a baby favorite in general.
I have heard this is an excellent baby shampoo.
This is on the expensive end for a high chair.But if you read the reviews and watch the video on it, it seems like it is worth the money. I love that you can start using it right away.
This carseat goes with the stroller I got in Black Friday, turning it into the perfect travel system.
This was recommended by Janice from A Slice of Style and I am pretty excited about it. The mesh lining is super soft and allows for water to come through so that baby can have a bath but not be submerged.
This is the end all baby teething toy, from every parent I have ever spoken with. Babies love this thing for some reason, and I am hoping baby girl does too.
I am pretty excited about this one. I will be talking about about it in an upcoming post but it’s the reason why I didn’t buy a bassinet.
A good friend told me about this book and how after reading it, her baby was sleeping through the night at 2 months old. Here is to hoping to works for Baby Girl!
I have heard so many good things about this one! I have read mixed reviews about it, people either LOVE it or HATE it. We did get this one and I am already obsessed with it, and baby girl isn’t even here yet! You can control the entire thing from your phone (The Husband likes to make fun of my love of controlling all things with my phone), but seriously does it get cooler than that? You can also plug your phone into the swing and it will play music from your phone.
I wanted to share my maternity photoshoot before baby girl gets here. I know I keep saying it, but I am pretty sure she is arriving soon. Baby girl is head down, has dropped pretty low and I am having contractions. Nothing consistent but definitely noticeable.
I love this dress from Asos. It is so flattering and is actually really comfortable. It’s great for maternity pictures or a formal occasion while you are pregnant. It is very long, I am 5’8″ and it was long on me.
When we were at the beach a few weeks ago, it really sunk in that our whole world is about to change. I think I was so focused on getting physically ready for baby girl’s arrival, getting the nursery ready and having all of the necessary baby things, that I wasn’t mentally preparing myself. Don’t be mistaken, we are so incredibly excited for her arrival. I can’t wait to be a mom. But I have spent the last 8 years doing my own thing, even after The Husband and I were married. I have had the opportunity to travel all over the world because of work and I have loved every minute of it.
All of that is going to change. I am going to want to take baby girl with me. Or if I leave her at home, I will miss her terribly. Traveling is going to become a lot more complicated. I pride myself on being able to pack very lightly, even when I am going on a long trip overseas. I know that this is going to change very drastically. That doesn’t mean it won’t be fun. I can’t wait to take her to the beach for the first time. Or overseas for the first time. I want so many things for her, things I never experienced. I want her to learn languages and be musical like her dad. I want her to experience different countries like her mom. I want her to be kind and compassionate, strong and intelligent. I honestly can’t wait to meet her. Here is to not waiting too much longer!
I was supposed to go to a conference for work this week. I had bought a few dresses to make sure I could fit into something. Out of no where, we had the worst/only snow storm we have had all winter. The conference was delayed and we decided it was better if I stayed behind in case we got stuck. I did want to share the dresses I bought so that if any of you are looking for maternity conference wear, you could see them!
You may recognize the blue lace dress, I also have it in burgundy. I love that this dress is works throughout every trimester. It stretches with you but is definitely a classic look. This is one of my favorite colors to wear too so it is a double win!
This floral dress is great for Spring. It is not ideal for 20 degrees and snow but I love it still the same. Like every other dress I have bought from Pink Blush, this dress can be worn as a maternity dress of or as a regular dress. I love how the blues stand out against the white.
I had been eyeing this purse from Sole Society for awhile. It fits my Macbook along with everything else I need in my purse and I love the color. It’s great for work and for running errands.
Due date is in two weeks, so baby girl could be here at any time!
Do you feel like you have seen this dress before? You have! I wore this dress in black when I talked about how I plan on running a blog and having a baby.
This dress is incredibly soft and great as a maternity dress. After loving the black version of this dress, I decided to get the pink version so I could wear it to a baby shower.
I have started to see pre labor signs! I may only be 37.5 weeks but I think this baby is coming before her due date, I am not complaining. She has dropped pretty low and seems to be ready to make her debut. We will see though!
There are so many different lists of what you should and shouldn’t bring to the hospital when you are having a baby. Your specific hospital will provide certain things but you need to check with them to make sure what those things are. We were told what our hospital provided when we took the hospital tour.
One of the things I have read about the most is to make sure you have comfy clothes with you to change into after you deliver. Something you aren’t 100% attached to (or you can easily replaced) but is incredibly comfortable. I found these PJs from Target about a month ago and they are they softest things I have every worn. I have worn them around the house a few times just to make sure I loved them, and I might have to go buy another set if something happens to these! A friend told me that the one thing I should bring with me to the hospital was warm socks with traction on the bottom. I wasn’t sure about it at first but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. Hospitals are cold. The floors are gross. You have to walk from your hospital bed to the bathroom (I don’t want to even thing about what is on those floors!). So I bought two pairs of cute fuzzy socks from Target and I think that will be enough.
I have heard mixed things about taking a robe to the hospital. I love this one, and I decided to pack it anyway. I would rather have it in my bag and not use it then want it. I have had multiple hospital procedures and I hate hospital gowns. I hate how they open in the back and they are itchy. So I will have this robe if I want it.
I, of course, have packed my Tula moisturizer and face wash. I have relied heavily on these during this pregnancy, I can’t stop using them now! I have my usual makeup and toiletries packed as well so that I have them if I want them. I have read a lot about this New Bottom Bum Spray and how great it is for new moms. I will be sure to let you know if it’s worth buying.
I have also packed some maternity underwear, mostly to go home in. Our hospital provides underwear for after delivery so I am not worried about that while we are there.
I do have an outfit packed for baby girl to take her home in, as well as a swaddle/headband to take some initial pictures in.
Only a few more weeks (or less) before her arrival now. I have a feeling she will be arriving early though so I am glad I have this bag packed now!