Working full time with a baby from home is HARD! I have had a lot of questions about how I am working full time again after having Jackie. For the past 5 years, I have been working for my parents, in their home. Every day is very different. But after having Jackie, we decided the best thing to do was to bring her with me to work. Since I have lived in my parents house and we have a similar set up to what I would have at home, I wanted to share how we make things work. Jackie is so young still, so we are working on how to make everything work. I think we have a pretty good system right now.
Jackie is an excellent sleeper. She goes to be every night between 8:30 and 9 pm and stays asleep until I wake her up at 6:30 am so we can leave the house by 7. (note: when I don’t wake her up on the weekends she sleeps until about 8 am). I feed her and get her ready for the day. Jackie and I get to the house around 7:30 am every morning after we drop The Husband off at the bus stop. By now she is getting hungry again, so she gets a second bottle and we play for a few minutes. Around 8, she gets tired and is ready for a nap.
While she is great at sleeping at night, she isn’t the best when it comes to taking naps. So we have had to improvise so she could get some napping in. My parents to have a crib at their house but no matter how many times I try to put her down in it, she won’t stay asleep, even in a Woombie. So instead, I hold her and rock to sleep. Then I put her in the Fisher-Price Rock & Play sleeper. She will nap in there for about 3 hours. This little bed is amazing and I love that is rocks on it’s own. I keep it close to my desk so I can keep an eye on her while I get my work done. It is amazing how much I can get done in 3 hours!
Lunch time can be a little tricky. Depending on when Jackie went down for her nap,
she can be wide awake and hungry or she can still be asleep. If she is awake, I feed her and then put her in her high chair. She is still a little small for it but we tilt it back and she loves hanging out with everyone and chatting. She is a very social baby!
After lunch is probably the hardest part of the day. Jackie wants to nap but also wants to be around everyone else. If she hasn’t been awake very long, I let her play on her play mat. She loves looking at herself and there are usually a few people that want to hang out and play with her. She will take another nap around 2 pm for about 2 hours. By the time she wakes up, things are winding down and she gets a lot of attention.
We don’t have a changing table at my parent’s house, so we keep a blanket on the floor with a puppy pee pad on top of it.I keep diapers, wipes, blankets, clothes, spit up rags, pacifiers, you name it, at the house. We don’t ever have an issue when it comes to supplies. I even bought a second bath support to keep at the house in case she needs a bath, which has happened!
Whenever Jackie is awake, she is getting TONS of attention. There are always at least 3 adults in the house at all times so if something happens and I need to be working on something, she is not left alone. There have been a few times where I have had to rely on friends or family to help out with her because I needed to be without distraction. I have been watching my cousin (who is 4) since she was 3 months old, twice a week. Her mom loves to help out with Jackie so sometimes she will take her in the mornings so I can get things done.
By the time we pick The Husband up from the bus and get home, everyone is exhausted!
But for now, this works for us. Jackie gets to spend lots of time with her grandparents and I can get my work done!
Her eyes just kill me! I can’t believe she is 2 months already. She is growing like crazy and looks more like a 4 month old than a two month old. Jackie is also behaving like an older baby. She has been socially smiling since she was a little over a month old and loves to look at her reflection. She can hold her head up for long periods of time, but would prefer to do so when she is propped up than during tummy time (which she hates). Jackie is incredibly curious and loves to go on long walks, especially somewhere there is a lot of action. She will go to just about anyone and loves to cuddle.
Jackie takes eating and sleeping very seriously, much to the delight of her parents!
She can down up to 7 ounces at a time without spitting it up and often wants more to eat an hour or so later. The thing we love the most that she is doing right now is sleeping. She slept for 7 hours straight for the first time on May 15. The next day we switched her formula from Similac Advantage to Sam’s Club Advance. It was cheaper and the box said they were comparable so we thought we would give it a try. After a day of eating it, Jackie actually stopped eating. She would scream because she was hungry but would scream louder if we gave her a bottle. We switched her back to Similac that day and she was much better. The next week we tried Enfamil for a few days, with the same result. So we are sticking to Similac Advantage for now!
On Tuesday May 23, she slept 8.5 hours straight. I had to actually wake her up at 6:30 am to eat something before we left for work. Since then she has been consistently sleeping 7-9 hours every night. I am convinced it has a lot to do with the schedule she is on, especially what we do at night. Our days vary depending on what is going on at work so I will just share our nighttime routine for now:
6:30 pm – Eat 5-6 ounces
7:00 to 8:00 pm – Go for a walk (we skip this if it is raining and just go straight to bath time)
8:00 pm – Bath Time (this is Jackie’s favorite!)
8:30 to 9:00 pm – Play mat time. We have discovered she loves to listen to Jazz music. She gets really excited when it is on so we play it during this time so she will wear herself out.
9:00 to 9:15 pm – Story time (both English and Spanish books)
9:15 pm – Tummy Time
9:20 pm – Eat 4-5 ounces
9:30 pm – Bed Time
I would say that she loves the walks and bath time the most but it seems like she likes everything more and more each day. She is recently interacting more during story time and coos at the books she likes the most. She usually screams during tummy time and is very happy to have her bottle when she is done. We then sing to her for a few minutes and put her in her crib. She is never actually asleep when we put her down. We have done this from day one because we wanted her to be able to put herself to sleep. She doesn’t cry unless she is still hungry. She will lay in her bed and look up at the baby monitor until she falls asleep. This has been working great for us for the last two months. Of course there are nights where something goes wrong or we aren’t home until right before bedtime so everything gets a little off schedule. But we are flexible and she seems to be too!
This is such a sensitive topic and something that so many people have very intense opinions about. I want to get ahead of all the comments I am going to get about why I chose not to breastfeed and say this is a very personal decision that every woman should make without the input or criticism of others. I have personally received a lot of judgement and unkind comments from strangers about my decision that is honestly none of their business. But I feel like I need to share the reasoning behind my decision so that anyone else going through what I went through understands that they are not alone.
As I have discussed before, I was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) at 16. The diagnosis and the start of medication changed my life for the better in so many ways. I was on Adderall for 8 years before I got pregnant. Taking my meds was a part of how I got through every day and I know I am better when I take them. I was unable to take my medication during my pregnancy because it can cause harm to the baby. I was not going to take the risk of possibly causing harm to my child, so it was an easy decision to stop taking my medication. After I delivered, I was able to start taking my medication again, but only if I was not breastfeeding.
I have read all of the information on the benefits of breastfeeding. Breast milk is the best thing for your baby. There are studies that show how it can help both mom’s and baby’s immune system (the studies that say it increases IQ have been debunked). However, it is not possible for everyone. In my case, I knew I would be a much better mom once I started taking my medication again. I struggled less with anxiety and I was able to get through each day and meet the needs of my baby. I chose not to breast feed because it allowed me to be a better mom to Jackie. In my mind, that balances out all of the other benefits of breastfeeding.
I am so lucky to have an amazing support system in my husband and extended family when it comes to this decision. No one pushed me. No one told me I was making the wrong decision. They all supported me every step of the way. Interestingly enough, I was not breastfed as a baby and neither were my brothers. My mom was so sick with us when she was pregnant, she was unable to produce breastmilk. Our pediatrician has also been great. They are supportive of us formula feeding Jackie and have not made an issue of it at all.
I am in awe of moms who do breastfeed. It is incredibly time consuming and requires a lot of mom. Because I am not breastfeeding, The Husband gets to feed Jackie. After we came home from the hospital, The Husband got up with Jackie in the night for three weeks so I could sleep. This made a huge difference to me recovery wise. Jackie is also happier because she is formula fed. She is a BIG eater. She can eat up to 8 ounces in a sitting (at 8 weeks old!). There is no way I would be able to keep up with her if I was breastfeeding. So I am keeping Jackie happy and healthy by formula feeding her.
Our doctor recommended that we use the ready made liquid formula for the first 30 days. Jackie liked the Similac Advaced formula, which I was able to buy from Amazon Prime, so that is what we went with. After we ran out of that, we moved onto powder.
We loved the Advent bottles and the Como Tomo bottles. I have read that the Como Tomo bottles are best for if you are both breastfeeding and supplementing with bottle feeding. Jackie really likes both brands of bottles so we have used both.
I do hope that anyone out there who is thinking about not breastfeeding or is already not breastfeeding finds some comfort in this. You are not alone. You made your decision for your own reasons and no one can or should make you feel about it.
Dress: Shop Plain Jane//Jacket: Old (similar)//Necklace: Kendra Scott//Necklace: Made By Mary//Shoes: Old Navy//Sunglass: Coach//Stroller: Uppababy//Car Seat: Uppababy//Diaper Bag: kate spade new york//Jackie’s onesie: Target
I was not very good about keeping you all updated about how I was dealing with my ADD during my pregnancy, and I am sorry! So I am going to give you an update on my ADD Post Pregnancy.
First, let’s talk about this dress. This is the comfiest dress I now own. It is from Shop Plain Jane and I need it in every color. It’s the perfect “mom” dress. It’s comfy and stretchy in all of the right places but I look really put together when I wear it. I have worn it every week since I got it, I wash it as soon as I have worn it so I can wear it again! I have been able to get a discount code for Breezing Through readers! Use the code breezingthrough for free shipping on your order (US orders only!).
The last few months of the pregnancy, my anxiety was really high. I would wake up in the middle of the night and freak out about things I had no control over or things that I was able to take care of in less than an hour. When I was 36 weeks along, the doctors were worried about Jackie’s growth because I was not measuring at 36 weeks. So they sent me to have an ultrasound done to make sure she was ok. This would give any soon to be mom anxiety. Because I was unmedicated, I fell apart. While I knew that everything was fine, I couldn’t help but think about all of the things that might be wrong and what I could have done to prevent them. The ultrasound showed that everything was fine and Jackie’s growth was fine. But those few hours of dealing with my anxiety was just more proof to me that I needed to be back on my meds ASAP.
Once Jackie was born, I thought that the anxiety would dissipate and I would go back to my normal level of day to day anxiety that I had pre-pregnancy. Oh how wrong I was! I couldn’t put her to bed at night without crying. I was constantly checking the baby monitor to make sure she was sleeping. There is a normal level of anxiety that comes with being a first time parent. But my anxiety was a lot higher than was probably healthy. So a few days after coming home from the hospital, I started taking the 4 hour release of my meds again. There was a huge difference. I don’t freak out over every tiny little thing. I have even left Jackie with my mom for a few hours while I napped and another time when The Husband and I went out on a date night with my cousin and her husband.
Being back on my meds, even if it is just a few 4 hour releases a day, has made a huge difference in the kind of mom I am. I can focus on what Jackie needs instead of what I need to feel better about her safety. I know when she is hungry or tired and what faces she makes when it is time for a diaper change. By reducing my anxiety, I am able to be in tune with her and with myself. I had also been ignoring my body and what I needed to heal. I thought I would bounce back really quickly and everything would be fine. No one really prepares you for how long the recovery process of child birth is, especially after your first child. I am now 7 weeks post delivery and I am much more in tune with what my body needs when I am on my meds. I started taking the 12 hour releases again last week and I am so glad that I did! I am back to my usual self and I feel like I can get everything done I need to each day.
Hopefully this helps anyone else out there who is struggling with a similar issue! Let me know if you have any questions, I am always happy to give more information.
Every newborn and their parents are different. Now that Jackie is almost 7 weeks old (AHHHHH!) I wanted to share with you our favorite newborn products that have worked for us and why!
We LOVE our Mommaroo. I wasn’t sure about buying a swing that was so expensive that Jackie wasn’t guaranteed to like but we used a gift card and so far it has been worth it. Depending on the day, Jackie, spends 15 minutes to an hour in it. It is great if you baby loved motion and I love that I can use my phone to control it! I do reccommend getting the infant insert if you have a smaller baby. We didn’t have it and Jackie wasn’t able to hold her head up yet. Luckily Amazon Prime delivered it the next day, and we used it for the first month.
I can’t say enough about these pajamas. They are so amazing I have been giving them as baby shower gifts! They are so soft and I love that they have the little mittens on the hands. I don’t love having mittens on Jackie’s hands usually but I think it is good at night when she is asleep. She is so cuddly in these! We love these so much, I have ordered them in the next size. I kinda wish they made an adult version.
I wrote an entire blog post about why I love this travel system so I won’t bore you again. But if you are looking for a stroller and want one you can use for everything, this is it!
I found this bath support while reading A Slice of Style, thank you Jenica! She uses them with her twins and I loved the concept so I put it on the baby registry. Jackie loves bath time and I think part of it has to do with this thing. We love it so much, I have bought a second one to keep at my parent’s house…
I read a lot about these baby bottles and women who nurse and bottle feed love them.
I decided to try them out and I loved them. They heat up easier than other bottles and Jackie seems to like the nipple on them more.
I love this shirt. I want Jackie to stay small enough to be carried in this shirt forever. Sadly that won’t happen. There is an Indiegogo Campaignthat ends on Friday where you can get one of these shirts at a discount! They are collecting funds to make a baby wearing product for after newborn.
Oh the Woombie. My sister-in-law sent this to us and Jackie HATED it at first. Then one night, she was done being swaddled with blankets but wouldn’t just go to bed. So we tried the Woombie again.
I have already ordered it in the next size so we have it when Jackie grows out of this one.
I know this sounds weird. But I bought a 50 count pack of puppy pee pads during my third trimester because I was paranoid my water was going to break. So I slept on them, drove with them in my car, sat on them. I know, weird. But I didn’t use that many because my water never broke. I was talking to my cousin when she was visiting about how I didn’t know what to do with them know that Jackie was here. She suggested that I put them under her sheets in her bed and on her changing table. LIFE SAVER! I have done so much less laundry because of this. You can get up to 150 count in a package and even subscribe to have them sent to you every month. I have already ordered more because we are almost out. We use them every day!
Dressing yourself postpartum is about as awkward as dressing yourself during any other point in pregnancy. So I have rounded up my favorite postpartum clothes for you. I have been wearing all of these, along with my favorite jeans that I can finally fit into again, and I have been pretty comfortable!
There is so much you can read about pregnancy and becoming a parent. But there isn’t much about what to expect right after you deliver your baby. I was not prepared for the three weeks after I delivered because no one told me what to expect. I started to feel normal after three weeks. I was eating like normal again and I had a lot of the after delivery things figured out. Here are 5 things people don’t tell you about after you deliver.
You are going to bleed, for weeks.
You can read about my post-delivery experience here. Because of my experience, I already knew that I was going to bleed for several weeks after I went home. But after three weeks of bleeding, I was expecting for the bleeding to stop. Nope. It can take up to 6 weeks for the bleeding to stop. And it’s not light bleeding. It is heavy period bleeding. Awesome. You end up wearing mesh underwear and heavy pads for weeks on end because it is the only way to survive. If you are pregnant, make sure you stock up on these and these, they will make your life just a little more comfortable.
If you have stitches, they will start to itch as they heal.
There is nothing like that itch. I had a grade 2 tear, which means both skin and muscle needed to be stitched. It took a lot longer to recover from the tear than I was expecting. Just when I thought I had my pain or the itching under control, it would flare back up again. I did find that this spray provided a huge amount of relief.
You can get hives.
I am already prone to getting hives when I am stressed. But all of the crazy hormones that come with having a baby, you are even more prone to getting hives. So you are bleeding, have itchy stitches and you are covered in hives. If this is you, contact your doctor. Luckily I already have supplies to get my hives in check. It would have been nice to have a heads up about it though!
Just because you are home from the hospital, doesn’t mean you are ready to do anything.
Because of all of the blood loss, I was not up to doing much the first week I was home. But I felt like I should be doing the dishes, laundry and a million other things. Luckily I have a lot of family around so I didn’t need to do anything. Easter was 2 weeks after we brought Jackie home from the hospital. I thought I would be able to do the Easter Egg hunt, help with dinner, take pictures and clean up. After less than an hour, I needed to sit a rest. We were at Paris’s house so I didn’t have to do anything and there were lots of people to hold Jackie. And that is ok. I needed to listen to my body. Giving birth is traumatic. If you bounce back from delivery really fast, great for you! If you don’t, listen to your body and rest!
You will be emotional and there is no reasoning behind it.
You may experience postpartum depression. Luckily we live in a time where there is a lot of information of PPD and most people are becoming more open about it. But you may also experience random moments of intense emotion that you can’t explain. The first week after we brought Jackie home, I would be looking at her and I would just start crying. Usually out of pure joy. I didn’t know I could love someone so much. I still love Jackie more than I can explain, but I don’t cry every time I look at her!